Mia Fields
Dating
dating and relationship strategist
You only need three dates to know whether a man is serious and ready for a real relationship with you before you become emotionally invested.
You like him. A lot. There’s chemistry and you can see the potential for something more.
But what is he actually building with you?
By date three, you can already begin to see how he communicates, whether his words match his actions and whether there is real direction behind the connection.
You don’t need to wait months or even years for the right partner to fully choose you, not when you know what to look for. Three dates gives you the information you need.
Stop Becoming The Unofficial Girlfriend™
You talk every day. You spend your weekends together; you might even be living together. You support him (perhaps financially too), make yourself available and give the connection the time, loyalty and emotional energy you would normally associate with a relationship.
But you’re still asking:
“Where is this actually going?”
This is what I call being The Unofficial Girlfriend™ where you are giving relationship-level access without having relationship-level security.
There may be intimacy, affection and regular contact but still no shared decision about the relationship, no clear direction and no commitment toward building the future you want.
A man can enjoy being with you and still not be building a future with you.
What he’s comfortable with and enjoys receiving, and what he intends to build are two very different pieces of information.
The longer it goes on, the harder it becomes to separate what’s actually happening from what you continue hoping it becomes.
"A man can enjoy being with you and still not be building a future with you."
THREE DATES. ONE IMPORTANT QUESTION
Has He Earned Further Access to You?
The first three dates aren’t about deciding whether a man is “the one”.
They are about noticing what is already available to notice before chemistry, hope, potential and emotional investment make it easier to explain things away.
By date three, you can begin assessing:
Does he communicate clearly? Do his actions match his words? Does he appear emotionally available? Is he dating with intention? Is there consistency? Does he have the readiness and direction to build a genuine lasting relationship?
Three dates cannot guarantee where a relationship will go but they do give you useful information about whether continuing to give him access to you makes sense.
Those first three dates protect you from months or even years of ‘unnecessary heartbreak’ from a situationship.
Choose the support that matches where you are now
The 3-Date
Filter™
Know within three dates whether the man you are dating is serious and ready for a real relationship, so you stop wasting time, before you become emotionally invested.
The Situationship Audit™
Find out exactly why situationships keep happening and what the connection in front of you is actually offering and get clarity about where you stand with him.
1:1 Dating
Session
Get clarity on what’s happening with you and change the way you date so you stop mistaking potential for progress and start creating the relationship you truly want.
30 DAY FLAGSHIP EXPERIENCE
Change the way you date for good, in 30 days, so you stop mistaking potential for progress.
This premium cohort experience helps you build stronger standards, filters and decision-making habits so you become clearer about whether a relationship can actually happen.
Entry is available during selected enrolment periods.
Next cohort begins 7 October 2026.
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I'm Mia
As a Dating and Relationship Strategist, with a background in relationship psychology,I help smart, accomplished women avoid situationships, stop overinvesting in potential and recognise if a man is serious and ready for a real relationship before they become emotionally invested.
I’m also a certified life coach, founder of The Emergent Woman® and creator of Life after NO®.
I once lived the experience of being The Unofficial Girlfriend™: giving relationship level access without receiving relationship level security. Along the way, I saw many smart, accomplished women caught in the “invisible trap” of situationships. This has shaped the work I do today.
My work is grounded in two core beliefs for dating: every single decision you make is influenced by the value you place on yourself and no woman should enter a relationship purely from a place of loneliness, desperation or fear.
The Emergent Woman®
Helping women choose the life and relationships that are right for them on their terms.
Work With Mia
- Programmes & Resources
- Private Coaching
- Say Less Experiences
- Media & Speaking